More is changing around here than just the seasons!
I feel like I've been swamped lately (hence the absence here), but it's always like that this time of year with my job.
But I've also been busy with some bigger life changes!
As many of you know I moved out of the house I owned over a year ago. Nice though it was, I just couldn't stand the thought of living there. I had changed the locks since the ex had moved out, but I never felt safe. I never felt like I had privacy. So I found a cute little rental house and moved my daughters and I into it. Little did I know it would take 16 months to sell my house and I'd be stuck paying for two houses all that time. But, we battened down the budget and made it work. When my lease came up after a year, I had some careful considerations to make. After much thought and discussion, my boyfriend and I decided to live together. So, I packed the girls up and we moved in with him. It's a scary thing moving in with someone. I guess the only other time I have lived with someone is when I moved in with my husband. We both owned little other than the clothes on our backs, and we purchased a place together. So it's different later in life. I had a house full of stuff. Things that you love, things that you spend years accumulating. And he had a house full of stuff. And now we had to navigate the logistical (and sometimes emotional) part of blending those things. That, and for the first time, I don't own the place I live. And when you've come to rely on only yourself for security and stability- it's tough to go into that situation. Most of my former life got packed into boxes and placed in storage. I guess you can mourn the loss of your old stuff, or you can look at it as a new life and a clean slate. That's the route I've chosen and fast forward 2 months and I'm happy to report that we're all doing well! It seems easier than I remember, living with someone. I would guess that's because the two personalities involved this time are much more compatible. I can admit, I was afraid of change and afraid of moving my two daughters into a new place. But I try to be very aware that I can't have been the only one with fears. Imagine having a house to yourself for most of your life and suddenly having three new faces greeting you every morning! I guess I'm grateful that we both looked past our fears and concerns, otherwise we wouldn't be where we are today!
Second, I puchased a new vehicle! Well, not NEW new, but new to me new! It's basically the first time in my life that I've had the opportunity to go out and get exactly what I want and it felt great! My first car my dad picked, my 2nd car I picked but on a VERY limited 20-year olds budget. My third car and last car (the minivan) my ex had a strong voice in. I researched cars for 6 months- features, reviews and prices. I narrowed it down. I test drove them. And then I walked into a dealership, by myself, and negotiated and purchased it. And I can only say, be still my heart... I am smitten! It's a 2008 Nissan Pathfinder. It's comfortable, it has some wonderful features that are just spoiling me, and it's pretty!
Tis the season for change I guess! Maybe I better research some new hair colors!