Wednesday, January 26, 2011
My loyal readers (ahem... all 2 of you) know that I am a long time fan of the show Sex and the City. So if I'm flipping channels and I stumble across it, you can bet I am going to inadvertently stop and catch up with my four TV besties! I've seen every episode (multiple times), but I still love it and have to watch the action unfold!
As I was channel surfing this week I came across an episode where Carrie ponders ROMANCE. And I recently had a talk with a close friend about romance and relationships. And with February and Cupid and all things lovey, dovey, and big chocolate hearts, just around the corner it got me wondering... as you go through life, what do you classify as romantic? And how do some people seem to so effortlessly maintain romance- through decades even?
I've found the definition of romance varies greatly amonst my circle of friends! After my divorce I read the book The Five Love Languages, and it reiterated as much. The gist was that each person has 1-2 "languages" (or things that they most appreciate and respond to). They are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. And a common pitfall amonst relationships is that we never learn our partners language, but try to force on them the things that we ourselves most appreciate, when that thing might not mean much to them at all. I will say it was a great read! After reading the book and even taking the "quiz" at the end, it became pretty apparent to me what my languages are.
Let's face it, I'd take all five or any of the five at any time! But if I HAD to rank, I think my list would go something like this: 1) Words of affirmation (who DOESN'T want to hear that they are a lovely, smart, irresistable creature!), 2) physical touch, 3) quality time, 4) acts of service, 5) receiving gifts.
So I guess what I'm saying is if I had a tropical get away (language 3 and 5), with a loving massage (2 and 4) and was showered with sweet nothings (1)- I'd be a happy girl! In the mean time I'll keep enjoying the things that come my way.
What are your more romantic moments or your "love language?"